Have you ever got to a certain point in your life when you wonder what the hell you are doing with it?
I think for both sexes there comes a time in their lives when that happens but more significantly for women who have had children and maybe given up careers to do so.
I had 10 fantastic years at Christie’s Auctioneers in London in my twenties! I can honestly say it was the best job I ever had and I met my business partner Andrea there. We were young and ambitious and I climbed the ladder there ending up as a Musical Instruments expert, which was a massive deal and something I am so proud of achieving.
At 30 I got married and I had my son at 33. Before then I had moved to Birmingham to be with my husband who is a professional musician and was living and working there and so I gave up my lovely job at Christie’s and got a job as a PA in Birmingham.
I had several PA roles over the years and when my son arrived I started to work part time, when he started school my PA role at a blue chip company became impossible to continue, the long hours required didn’t fit with having a child and a husband that worked unsociable hours and the company were not open to me reducing my hours to fit around school start and finish times.
I started to look for other jobs but they all had the same problem, they wouldn’t allow me to be flexible with my hours. Eventually I started working as a typist for an online digital dictation firm which fit well around school hours and made life easier for us all. I did this job for 8 years! It paid the bills but it didn’t excite me or make me use my brain and I got in a rut. Just doing it because I felt that was the only option I had.
I won’t lie, having a child made me completely lose my confidence. I can’t explain why but it did, I suppose I saw myself as just mum and that was my job now and that’s all I knew about. I went from this confident career minded person to someone who was scared to answer the telephone. Time went by and my son grew and started to not need me so much, he’s now 14! A young adult! I wasn’t happy just listening to a voice on a tape and typing what they said for hours and hours. I started to realise that I needed more, I needed to do something for me!
I started to realise that I needed more, I needed to do something for me!
I had thought about opening a rabbit hotel (basically like kennels for dogs but for rabbits) for when people go on holiday. I have loved rabbits for years and I have my own two and I used to volunteer at a rabbit rescue so I had the knowledge to do this. But what I didn’t have was the confidence to just do it. Working for myself and being self-employed was something which was really appealing but I just didn’t know how to do it.
And that’s when I got a life coach, without actually realising it until now!
LOL! Andrea was my friend from Christie’s and we’d known each other for a long time but then gone our separate ways. However, in 2015 we had found each other again. I talked to her about my dreams and she listened and questioned and challenged my reasons for not just going for it. She also suggested that maybe we should do something together as we had worked so well in the past and it would be great to do something just the two of us! Just running ideas past someone else and having someone challenge you and actually question your reasoning for not going for it makes you have a good long think about what you want and gives you the confidence to actually believe you could do this. Without Andrea I would still be sitting at a desk typing legal documents all day long and I am so grateful that she made me realise that I could do this and that the only person holding me back was me!
So that’s what I did, I set up Hanbury Bunny Boarding in September 2015 and Andrea and I set up Hewson & Nash in 2016 and now here we are in 2017 launching Hewson Nash Holistic! I feel like I
have ME back! And I realise now I can be ME and mum and a wife and it’s all about wanting to change and having the confidence to change and that is what Andrea gave to me through her life coaching!
If anyone had said to me before try a life coach I would have probably laughed and said no I don’t know need one, but I did and it worked for me! I have totally changed my life for the better.
So here are some questions and answers as to why a life coach might be beneficial to you. I would say it’s the best investment you can make if you feel you are at a crossroads in your life and are having trouble moving forward.
Why would you want a Life Coach?
Sometimes in life it is easier to talk to someone who is not close to you to get a more objective opinion about certain aspects of your life.
For example a Life Coach can guide you in the right direction on aspects of your life that you would like to change or they can even see things that need to change in your life that you haven’t really thought about or don’t know what to do about.
Guidance from someone else and having someone else’s opinion can clarify your thoughts.
Why would you need a Life Coach?
Maybe you are at a crossroads in your life, career-wise/relationship-wise, maybe you have difficult decisions to make that could be life changing and to have someone to talk these things over with and give you the confidence to make that change or not make the change.
What do you think you would gain from having a Life Coach?
The benefit of having someone to talk through any decisions you are finding difficult to make, to really find out how you feel deep down about issues in your life. To really challenge you and make you think really seriously about your actions and what you need to do to change things if you are not happy with the way things are in your life.
How would you know if you are working with a good Life Coach?
A good Life Coach should listen to you, challenge you and make you really think about things in ways you may never have thought of before. They are supportive and not judgmental.